A Letter To My Younger Self

A Letter to Me

Writing a letter to your younger self is a wonderful way to evaluate choices and make better ones going forward. Read mine and then why not write your own?

Dear Trish,
There is so much I wish you knew right now. Then again if you knew it, you wouldn’t be who you are, who I am. You have done well. In many areas you have really excelled. Yet there is so much more that I want for you.
I’m sure life could’ve been easier if you had figured some of this out sooner. I certainly can’t say no regrets. I have plenty for you. For an easier happier ride, I would definitely advise you to make some wiser choices. If you get the chance to do it all again, here are some suggestions.

Self Esteem

You are just as good as anyone else. A better education, background, school or car does not make a better person, nor does not it make a worse one.
You have everything you need to create the life you want. Be open to every opportunity that comes along. Instead of reading horror stories read a few self help books.

Health

Take better care of yourself. Loosen up on that obsessive work ethic. Take a day off when you need to. When you have a sore throat and can barely speak, take the night off. Pushing ahead to sing so you won’t let the band down. That will result in you letting them down for three months after surgery.
Vegetables are not your enemy, even though Mum cooked them to soggy destruction. You will eventually discover that Brussel sprouts are pretty awesome. It’s a shame to wait such a long time to figure it out.
When you are in pain keep going back to the doctor until you get a diagnosis.  You will suffer unnecessarily  if you not do not learn to be strong and confident when dealing with medical staff. Do not accept “this is just the way it is and you have to live with it”.
Be open to new healing modalities try new things, test, ask questions, figure out what works for you.

Family

Write down all those funny and incredible stories your mum and dad tell you about their upbringing and life during the war. Their memories will fade and they won’t remember later when you ask. Realize and be grateful for the truth that your family are amazing and you are amazing because of them. Get uncomfortable and become a hugger. Find ways to communicate your gratitude and love for your parents. They are doing the best they can with the resources they have.

Other People

Stop trying to impress people, they will like you as you are.
Listen to your gut instinct especially when dealing with strangers, they can’t all be trusted (although you will find most of them can).
Don’t chase men who aren’t interested in you, there will be plenty who will chase you.
Don’t do anything that makes you feel bad even if everyone else is doing it

Your Appearance

Stop picking at your skin. Spots and blemishes will get better if you leave them alone. Fix your skin from the inside by learning to eat real food.
You are probably on number 3 of the 20 or so diets you’re going to try. They won’t work long term. You always regain the weight and it screws up your metabolism. I will say it again, eat real food.
Find a group and start running you will make friends and find that it’s fun. Forget the gym you will try it numerous times and you’re never going to like it.
Spend money on your appearance. Buy good quality clothes. Stop buying ‘bargains’ that don’t fit well and look outdated.  When you try on clothes, ask yourself these questions. Do I love it?  Will I wear it today without needing liposuction or another crash diet for it to  fit?
Wear sunscreen or cover up more. Wrinkles are forever. Cutting your own hair? really just no, not even your fringe. Dying it blonde while drunk, double no.

Money and Abundance

There is enough to go around. There is nothing wrong with wealth. It is good to spend it, share it, donate it, save it, earn it, receive it and enjoy it. Start to see money as just another form of energy. Only talk about it in a positive way. Focus on more instead of lack. You will learn that you get what you focus on.
Invest in yourself. Training, classes,education, retreats, seminars. None will be wasted.

Everything Else

Your faith and your spiritual life are a journey.  Your journey will be different to that of others. Be less concerned about what others believe and more about what your soul needs. Find your faith in love not fear and superstition.
Relax and realize most of the stuff you worry about will never happen.
If you don’t know something don’t pretend you do.
See the best in people. Avoid judging. You will do it, we all do. Work on doing less of it.
Don’t argue about politics. It’s pointless, if you don’t learn this now it might take you another 30 years.
Do stand up for what you believe in.
Learn Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) the first time you hear about it don’t wait, it will change your life.
Be yourself. Live fearlessly be brave, be bold. Act as if you can do anything, because you can.

I give you permission to say a phrase ending in Off to the following people

The teacher who said you couldn’t have green as your favorite color because it was the devil’s.
The man who will promise to help you find your friends when you get lost at the festival(You can probably avoid this by following your instincts about strangers).
The agent who will suggest  you will be more successful if you wear less clothes.
The coworker who will make fun of your body and help add to your self esteem issues.
The man who offers to date you if you lose weight and get your teeth fixed.
Though If you start reading self help books, you may not feel the need.

Final Thoughts
What you don’t know, you can learn.
If you don’t have it, you can find a way to get.
If you don’t like something, change it.

“Ultimately there is no such thing as failure. There are lessons learned in different ways.” Twyla Tharp

What would you say to your fifteen year old self?

If you need help with dealing with your past  Try this Technique.