A common NLP theme is that if something isn’t working you should try something else or look for a different approach.
I regularly meet people who are struggling with issues and feel that they have no choices. I believe there is usually a choice but we can’t see it because we are so paralyzed by fear or too emotionally involved to see it.
Today I drove to one of my favorite places to run and was a little ticked off to discover that the trail was being dug up to be resurfaced. I still managed to run but was covered in dirt in no time so I cut it short. I walked back to the parking lot and decided to walk a little further in the other direction just to see how far I could go. To my surprise I came across a path that ran in the opposite direction along the side of the water. I had no idea that this path existed. I enjoyed a lovely walk to the end of the path and back, with a light breeze coming off the water, making it more pleasant than the usual trail.
Sometimes there are other options, but we have to step off our normal path before we can find the one that we didn’t even know existed. Or as Anthony Robbins says “If you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always gotten”.